While talking to an internet friend I met via NaNo years ago, we began discussing our respective damages* and coping mechanisms and such and he pointed me to an article on Wikipedia about kintsugi because our conversation was reminding him of that.
As a philosophy kintsugi (金継ぎ) can been seen to have similarities to the Japanese philosophy of wabi-sabi, an embracing of the the flawed or imperfect. Japanese aesthetics values marks of wear by the use of an object over time, this can be seen both as a rationale for keeping an object around even after it has broken, and as a justification of kintsugi itself, highlighting the cracks and repairs as simply an event in the life of an object rather than allowing its service to end at the time of its damage or breakage.
Kintsugi can also relate to the Japanese philosophy of “no mind” (無心 mushin) which encompasses the concepts of non-attachment, acceptance of change and fate as aspects of human life.
Because I’m the sort of person that is deeply affected by words,*** I think this is worth putting here to remember.
*I find it interesting that the people I meet through NaNo are far, far less likely to present themselves as neurotypical than people I meet anywhere else. I won’t speculate on why,** I just find it interesting.
**Yes, I’m aware there’s no feature in place to stop people from lying on the internet and people lie for attention often and that’s as likely to be happening a non-zero value of the time on NaNo as it is everywhere else.
***And because I’m the sort of person that is deeply irrationally opposed to altering my internal chemical processes with medication—I haven’t hit bottom yet (just… just give me time).